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Do You Think It’s Okay For Parents To Yell At Their Grown Children? (adult children in their 20s)

My father yells at me for everything. It doesn’t matter if its actually important or not(he is also very controlling which is why I think he yells all the time, cause he can’t control me as much as he would like). I know he doesn’t see me as an adult even though I’m 26 years old.

kiwibird_99

My boyfriend’s mother yells at him over the dumbest things, in front of her boyfriend too. It is uncomfortable and frankly embarrassing on her part. It shows a lack of growth, a resistance to seeing their child as another person with their own free thoughts and will.

LordCommanderFang
Safe & Social
I do not think adults should yell at one another, period *edit *obligatory thanks for the award, fellow internet human

NFather

Do I figure developed grown-ups ought to lounge around and be hollered at by their folks?

No. No, I don’t. It is completely inside their capacity to leave that circumstance, and they have to do as such.

andrhaas
abused chronically ill & laid off from a pandemic child of a parent that still yells at them here, asking for more info on that entirely within our power leave part

LadyMorrigan95
You imply that we, the grown adults, have somewhere else to go at night or somewhere else to live. You imply that we have rational thinking parents who believe that we and the rest of the world don’t owe them everything on a silver plater. I there would have been hell to pay if I just walked away.

However, judging my you user name, I’m guessing that by saying “entirely within their power to leave that situation, and they need to do so” you’re meaning get the hell out of my house because you pay the bills and put the roof over our heads, right?

PurrND
Yelling at anyone is appropriate in 2 cases I can think of: when they won’t hear you otherwise (deaf or far away) and if there is immediate danger!

That said, try the grey rock method of response. If you reply quietly with no emotion, it amplifies mom’s level of inappropriateness. Hard to do, but may help reduce volume/anger to be able to clear up the problem. Good luck ??

xinedom
No. They are 20’s. Parents are there to assit and teach not to yell and humiliate. Parents should be the no. 1 supporters and no. 1 role model to the younger ones.

smmrstrm
I don’t think that’s ok.

My father yells at me for everything. It doesn’t matter if its actually important or not(he is also very controlling which is why I think he yells all the time, cause he can’t control me as much as he would like). I know he doesn’t see me as an adult even though I’m 26 years old. It is humiliating and it makes me feel like a child. It is ruining my ability to properly fit into the real world.

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